I am in the mood for talking about relationships today….I found this article “Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily Today” I’ve been divorced for five years and I find myself doing and thinking the things that this article is addressing. Basically, it sums up all that today’s relationships. There is a sweet lady I love who just turned 80. A couple of years ago, she lost her husband of almost 60 years from Alzheimer. She told me she got married so young, she cried every night in the beginning and called her mom and asked her mom if she could come home. She said she was so scared…..Now her husband is gone, and she told me that she misses him so much and she still loves him so deeply….. This to me sounds like true love.
She didn’t have a choice to leave him, at least that was her reality and leaving him wasn’t even an option for her, But yet, she told me once she got to know him better, she started liking him and eventually loving him. Old school right?
“We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow; we let go before time.”
What about ” Don’t settle for anything less?” ” You can do better than that.”
Yes, we have so many “Virtual Friends” and there are plenty of fishes in the ocean. But yet, why so many of us are feeling lonely?
Julianne Holt-Lunstad, PhD, professor of psychology at Brigham Young University who carried out the research, said in a statement basically said social isolation, loneliness could be greater threat to public health than obesity.
“We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we’ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it’. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded”
Is this you? Scared to get your heart broken, so you don’t want to start it. You know you can heal your broken heart. I know it causes pain in your heart. I’ve experienced it. Yes, it might take some time but you are not broken. You are capable of overcoming those tough time. Let’s practice loving someone unconditionally. After all, all we want is love and true belonging. We do things because you want love. Let’s love him without expecting him to love you back. Love make you feel good. Let’s practice loving him/ her. I am practicing. Are you?
. “Why modern relationship are falling apart so easily today” http://www.mensxp.com/relationships/relationship-problems/29380-why-modern-relationships-are-falling-apart-so-easily-today.html By Ankush Bahuguna